Weddings are designed to be one of the happiest moments of two people who love each other. The stress of planning the event instantly vanishes on the planned date. Sometimes, wedding scenes are used to portray a ‘happy ever after’ story.
But is it really?
Each year, the number of annulment and divorce rises - one of the proofs that a wedding does not guarantee a happy ever after. Sometimes, marriage causes a lot of heartache. But if you have finally found ‘The One’, you are surely convinced that heartaches are all worth it, when spent with that special someone.
The following are just few of the things you can expect after the happy wedding.
1) You will discover a lot about your spouse.
You think you know your partner well? Don’t be so sure. During your marriage, you will be surprised to know that you have a lot of things you don’t know about them. This may not happen overnight, but the years you spend together will make you realize how little you know about someone you dated for years.
2) “Nothing is permanent in this world except change”
That quote proves to be true when it comes to marriage. People constantly change, and you would have to adjust to their changes if you want to have a lasting relationship. The song “Mirror” by Justin Timberlake describes how two people can change overtime, and to save their marriage, one must always be ready to change with the other.
3) There are things you will hate about your partner
Annoying and irritating - two words you would eventually describe the one you love. But the fact that you are still together is an evidence of how much your love has grown. Slowly, you will learn how to cope with each other’s shortcomings and will love your annoying partner anyway.
4) Marriage requires a lot of sacrifice
Before your wedding, there might be a lot of things you have already sacrificed. It could be your career, other relationships, or future goals. Making sacrifices to get married takes a lot of courage, but it doesn’t stop there. In order to keep your marriage, you have to sacrifice even more, so as not to compromise the feelings of your spouse.
5) Love does not have to fade
After decades, you’ll prove this to be true if you still stayed in the marriage even if you are constantly surprised with the many things you didn’t know about your partner and no matter how many things you hate about your spouse; if you adjusted with the constant change, and you willingly sacrificed a lot of things for your marriage.
I hope that in the future, you will find yourself smiling at young couples who admire you and your spouse for still being happy together. It is possible. It happens all the time.
Note: Divorce and annulment are not encouraged by law unless your life is in danger. (Individuals who are in an abusive relationship are advised to leave as soon as possible.)
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